Step #1: Talk to your partner (yes, you need a script)
One of the biggest barriers in starting a conversation about a prenup is … not knowing what to say.
This isn’t a conversation you’re used to blurting out over brunch.
Here’s a soft, but clear script. You can adapt this to suit you:
“Hey, is now a good time to talk?
I’ve been thinking about something important.
I’ve worked hard to set myself up financially, and I’m proud of that. I love this relationship, and I really see it going somewhere.
But if we were to move in together or get married, I’d want us to get a relationship property agreement in place.
Now I could keep going, but what’s your initial reaction to that?”
I like introducing the idea and then saying: “What’s your reaction to that?” Because some people will say: “Fine, that makes sense” … and then that’s the conversation done.
But, if you get a negative reaction, then you can get a sense of where the conversation might go.
If you’re not naturally direct, try easing into the topic with something more casual:
- “What are your thoughts on prenups?”
- “I read this article about relationship property agreements … ever thought about getting one?”
- “One of my mates has to get a prenup because of his business. It got me thinking – would we get one?”
But no matter how softly you start, you’ll need to say “I want one” at some point, so don’t be afraid to come back to that after a gentle opening.
